Here’s What Women Really Want in the Bedroom
There’s sex and then there’s that kind of sex.
You know, the super-dirty moves and feelings she can’t wait to tell her friends about once her head stops spinning from the orgasm. But here’s the truth: hot sex is different for every woman, and what really gets her going isn’t the same thing that turns you on (or what turned your ex on).
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We got real women reveal the raunchy secrets behind the kind of sex your girl wishes you were having with her, so regardless of whether you’ve been seeing her for five minutes or for five years, steal these hot sex secrets tonight. We promise she’ll be thanking you later.
1. Doggy-Style Sex
You love the view and the deeper penetration of doggy-style, plus you can move her hips easily and fluidly. Not to mention being in total control and feeling her breasts from behind.
What makes it hot for her: “Doggy makes me orgasm easier because the angle hits my G-spot. I also love the raunchiness of it: when my guy slaps my ass, talks dirty to me and pulls my hair — all while going at it hard — it’s perfect. Plus, the sweat glides us closer, lessening the friction, and making me wetter! It’s really a win-win for both of us.” – Lindsay, 25
2. Sex Against a Wall
It’s the acrobatic challenge you enjoy, plus the surprise factor. Push her up against the kitchen sink after a hard day at work, and if she’s in the mood, she’ll melt right into your crotch (or arms).
What makes it hot for her: “I love being put up against a wall and getting it from the back. I like the control he has over me when he’s thrusting it in. Added bonus of that position: he can play with my clit while we’re doing it. I just love the fact that, since I’m against the wall, I can’t go anywhere so I have to take anything he gives me!” – Shannon, 26
3. Sex Where She’s in Control
While taking the reins is many a man’s preferred sexual position, letting your vivacious lady step in and have the control might turn you on more than you think. And it’ll definitely get her more than a little wet.
What makes it hot for her: “Raw power exchange is what I love. I love seeing a man powerless beneath me. Bound and helpless, pleading for release. I’m quite fond of being on top. It allows me both the physical and mental control I crave. Watching a man squirm is my ultimate high.” – Mary, 25
4. Oral Sex
The best warm-up to any marathon sex session is a little mouth play. Sometimes, though, she just wants it to be just about her. If you can surprise her with that, we bet she’ll return the mind-blowing favor later.
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What makes it hot for her: “Sometimes we’ll be laying on the couch, and he’ll lay his head down on my stomach. I know exactly what’s coming next, and every time it happens, I get wet automatically. He’ll slide his hand up my legs, force them open and begin his magic. It’s sudden and blunt, to the point, and there’s nothing more that makes me come so fast.” – Liz, 29
5. Quickie Sex
You have 10 minutes before you’re about to head out the door to meet friends, but the way that black dress hugs her ass has you so hard that you have to finish before you leave. Don’t worry, that feeling goes both ways.
What makes it hot for her: “Quickies are so much fun! As a type-A personality I get off on deadlines anyway. Most recently, I was getting ready for a girls’ night out and had my friends picking me up in 20 minutes, and my partner pinned me on the bed and rocked my world (orgasms for both of us) in 10 minutes. I felt great when I went out that night and my friends all told me I looked so refreshed.” – Megan, 25
6. Public Sex
When you have to have her, there is no stronger urge. And when she’s into getting frisky — with the chance of getting caught — you’re all game. That being said, outdoor sex can be risky, as the following anecdote makes clear:
What makes it hot for her: “Sex is the best when you can’t have it right at the second when you want it. You want to touch each other but you can’t, because you are driving somewhere or in public place. For example, my boyfriend and I got so horny on a trip back home that we stopped on the side of the road to have a quickie. A cop came and thankfully didn’t see anything happen so he let us go. There is something about the thrill of getting caught that turns me on. Depending on where you are, the challenge of trying to keep quiet when all you want to do is scream is so hot. That is the best sex.” – Kerri, 32
7. Unexpected Sex
She doesn’t think so, but when she’s scrolling through Instagram first thing in the morning with coffee and just your T-shirt on, there’s really no other time she looks sexier. Or any other time you want to push her down and make her come.
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What makes it hot for her: “The unexpected sex is the most thrilling: When he hides behind the door when I enter a room and he throws me onto the bed, when he pulls me into an alleyway and does me doggy style, and when fighting off a hangover in the car and he pulls me on top of him. It’s the surprise adventure of having sex with a man who wants me anywhere, anytime that turns me on.” – Alex, 29
8. Familiar Sex
Having sex with the same person for a long time can feel monotonous, but it can also be the hottest sex of your life. She knows your buttons, and you know hers, making the intimacy level an all-time high and an incredible turn-on.
What makes it hot for her: “One of the true thrills of being in a relationship is when we’ve both had enough play time and he starts doing that thing, the thing he knows will always, always make me come. There’s something about the certainty of it that lets us both relax and be completely in the moment. It feels awesome physically, of course, but playing it safe reminds me how safe I feel with someone who really knows me — the psychological thrill is like getting a big hug and an orgasm at the same time!” – Clara, 28
9. Dirty Talk
The brain is the biggest sex organ — so sometimes the hottest thing you can do is cater to her fantasies. What does she want to hear you say when you talk dirty to her?
What makes it hot for her: “My boyfriend is super sweet to me, always dependable, and I love how relaxed I feel with him. But in bed, he lets out his kinky side by calling me dirty pet names (that, OK, are a little inappropriate!), but just hearing him talk like that can make me 10 times more turned on than before. I also like the text messages he sometime sends from work about the things he’s going to do to me later…” – Jackie, 28
10. Role-Play Sex
She’s your dirty little maid and you’re Christian Grey from Fifty Shades. You pretend to meet as strangers at some bar and let it go from there. Role playing is more than just dress-up; it lightens up traditional, repetitive sex that can happen in long-term relationships.
What makes it hot for her: “Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while. It’s good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm.” – Heidi Klum, Marie Claire
11. Sex With Toys
You might be a little hesitant to use something other than your own shaft in the bedroom, but for your lucky lady, an added vibrator may send her right over the top. And if you get the right one, could shock you with it’s pleasure-making ability, too.
What makes it hot for her: “I love it when he is into sex toys. Some guys have been intimidated or even offended when I wanted to add a vibrator to the mix. I say if your lady is into it, get over yourself and use it to your advantage! It works out well for everyone in the end.” – Summer, 28
12. 69ing
You get off, she gets off and you both are warmed up for intercourse. You might not be able to concentrate as well as you can when you’re just going down on her, but the mutual stimulation is, well, awesome.
What makes it hot for her: “Oral sex has always been great, given and received. 69ing always great and perfect because you can really discover one another the best way. You have to be really comfortable with each other. The exploration makes your bond even stronger — and it always gets me going.” – Kara, 27
13. Missionary
It’s an old standard, but the Missionary position is something that can still get the motor going. You love the control and if you hit her at the right spot and angle, an orgasm isn’t far away.
What makes it hot for her: “I’ve always been a fan of Missionary. I like a guy to be in control and it allows for variety in speed, fast and hard versus slow and rocking in a way I haven’t found in other positions. Plus, there’s room for lots of kissing and whispering of sweet and dirty nothings! I find it incredibly sensual and intimate. The best is when my guy holds my hands above my head, and my legs are resting on his shoulders!” – Jasmin, 28
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